I just want to sit down with you and talk.
Lately, my daughter has been working through an exercise in self-trust.
It involves boundaries and privacy and
Being honest about needing space.
It involves learning to honor oneself before the image other’s hold of us.
My daughter is feeling suffocated
By the insecure needs of another
And it’s hard to find courage and words
To demonstrate allegiance to self
Without feeling like a monster
Being caring and highly sensitive,
Wanting to please others yet
Needing to protect your energy
Can feel impossible.
Learning that kindness is being tactfully honest,
Instead of using sugar coating niceties that make you cringe.
It takes looking hard in the mirror,
Facing the real root of our irritations…
They stem from what we allow.
How many grown people don’t have the tools
To construct effective + empathetic confrontation?
It is in our youth that
The ball too often gets dropped
And we learn to pretend, to please, to patronize,
When we know better,
Better we must do.
They need us to gift them
With vocabulary and verse,
“I” statements carried in the proverbial purse.
Accountability looks different depending the situation
Too often blame gets placed on an expectation
Someone else isn’t filling.
But blame we must take for our own perceptions.
If we do not speak the truth of what is in our hearts,
Assumptions are made, wires get crossed.
So swallow your pride,
Be decent and direct.
Lead a generation
To better communication.